Learning from difficulties

Life is full of challenges, be it at home, school or among your peers. And sometimes, when you least expect it, you might find yourself in a tough situation. What goes through your mind when you’re faced with something difficult? Do you think that your life is going badly and start complaining? Do you think, “Why does this keep happening to me?”

While it’s easy and even tempting to adopt the “woe is me” mind frame, it is not the best attitude to have. According to the Law of Attraction, if you feel negatively about yourself, more negative things will be attracted to you. So instead of feeling miserable and sorry for yourself, the best approach is to “roll with the punches.”

This means, if you’re faced with a difficult situation, or if things aren’t going your way, you mustn’t think of it as a hindrance, or that bad things only happen to you. Instead, think of the difficulty as part of your route to success. If you allow it to, hardship can bring you positive results. Here’s how to turn the tables on your problems and start learning from your difficulties:

  1. Be more appreciative
    Difficulties can help you to develop a deeper appreciation for the good things in your life, which may have gone unnoticed.
  2. Valuable lessons
    Hardship teaches you to work harder and smarter, and helps you to learn from your mistakes. By reflecting on your difficulties, you can find better solutions that will serve you in the future.
  3. Sweeter success
    When you’re faced with adversity, and you manage to overcome it, your success will be that much sweeter.
  4. Become stronger
    If you don’t let them overcome you, challenges and problems can make you stronger and more resilient.
  5. Problems are opportunities
    Each and every problem you face gives you the opportunity to be better in every way, be it what you’re doing or how you’re behaving.

By adopting a positive mindset in the face of difficulties, you’ll no longer be sabotaging yourself with negative thoughts and instead, you can begin to attract better circumstances. Remember, the Law of Attraction is always present and it is observing you. If you work hard to resolve issues with a positive approach, the Universe will lend you a hand.

This is why, in our HeadStart Programme, we Nurture a Growth Mindset and we coach students and their parents about the Law of Attraction, as well as how to apply the tools that can drive them towards success and greatness.

The five main objectives of the ‘HeadStart’ Programme are to:

  1. Neutralise and shift the existing mindsets of students to a ‘growth mindset’, thus opening them up to the potential for increased performance and positive change;
  2. Identify and overcome fears, doubts and limiting beliefs, which are ‘roadblocks’ to experiencing significant progress;
  3. Take 100% ownership and accountability and responsibility for the results being generated both in school and at home;
  4. Increase the culture of positivity, construct uplifting environment and build cohesive family units which results in harmonious and empowering relationships; and
  5. Equip and empower teens to thrive in a rapidly changing social and work environment

So the next time you bump into a roadblock to achieving your goals, look at it as a golden opportunity. Instead of lamenting your bad luck, nurture a positive perspective and welcome the chance to learn and grow. This is one way to let difficulties work in your favour and to get the Law of Attraction support you on your way to success. If you need help in shifting negative mindsets, do get in touch with one of the coaches at LOA Malaysia.

Body language

How to communicate well without speaking.

As a teenager and student, you’ve probably become aware of how important communication can be in daily life. Whether you’re speaking up in class, talking to your parents at home, or hanging out with your friends, effective communication can offer you a wealth of knowledge, opportunities and experiences. But why is it so important for us to communicate well?

Firstly, communication is the foundation of good relationships. By being a good speaker and listener, you are able to share interests, dreams and concerns with others, as well as give and receive support. This is why the Law of Attraction emphasises upon good thoughts and words.

However, speaking, or verbal communication, is only part of how you communicate. The other part is your body language, or non-verbal communication. Everything from your facial expressions and how you walk, to your posture and your tone of voice, can indicate how you’re feeling on the inside.

But your body language doesn’t just affect other people, it affects you too. Therefore, to be more confident and successful, your body language must attract those traits. We can all benefit from improving the way we communicate, so here are some tips on how to communicate well using your body language:

 
Face: Keep your face relaxed and don’t wear a slight smile, with your eyebrows slightly raised. This conveys confidence and friendliness without anxiety.

Eyes: Your eyes are the windows to your soul, so if you’re speaking to someone, maintain comfortable eye contact. This conveys that you are interested in the conversation. However, avoid staring; it is ok to look away occasionally.

Posture: Whether you’re sitting or standing, maintain a fairly relaxed posture with your arms and legs uncrossed. This signifies that you’re at ease with yourself.

Body: When speaking to someone, face them. Lean towards them a little to indicate that you’re actively listening, and avoid looking up to or down on them.

Shoulders: If you’re someone who often shrugs, stop doing it. This small movement indicated to others that you either don’t know or don’t care.

Distracting gestures: Avoid making distracting gestures, like fidgeting with a pen, glancing at papers, or tapping your feet or fingers.

Affirmative gestures: Nod your head in agreement, smile at something funny, and laugh when appropriate. These simple gestures show empathy and lets people know that you’re on their side.

Fingers: Don’t point your fingers as you speak, as it looks like you’re blaming someone or something. Instead, steeple your fingers by pressing your fingertips together and keeping your palms separate. Many world leaders do this to convey confidence.

Walk: Walk with confidence at your own pace. Don’t shuffle or drag your feet. Hold your head high and look forward, not down. Keep your shoulders back and stomach tucked in.

At the LOA Centre, Malaysia, we believe that you can use your body language to stay positive and build your attraction. As a first step, our coaches will help you recognise the power of the mind-body connection. Next, they will show you how you can use it to your advantage with the Law of Attraction.

 
Once you know your own body language and what you may have been doing wrong, you can start making simple changes that will not only help you feel more confident, but reset your entire “vibe”.

 
A vibe is a word used to describe the longer word vibration. The word vibe is also often used to describe a mood or feeling. There are two (2) types of vibes; positive (+ve) and negative (-ve). What this means is that every mood or feeling you experience causes you to send out a vibration, either positive or negative and at any one time, you can only send out one such vibe, either positive or negative.

 
Once you start using positive body language, you send out positive vibes to those around you. People are naturally attracted to positive body language and confidence, so in turn, others and the universe at large, will respond by reciprocating your positivity.

 
So in order to start attracting good things to you, work on making your body language positive and confident. In fact, make “changing your body language” your personal project this week. You’ll soon notice that just by changing several body language habits, you can change your entire mood and gain more from life!

The Positive Path

Become a positive thinker and turn thoughts into action

Has anyone ever told you to “think positive”? It could have been a parent, teacher, relative or friend. And what thought crossed your mind when you heard it? Perhaps you thought that “thinking positive” is useless and that it doesn’t work, or that it’s impossible to achieve. Ok, hold onto that thought.
Why is it when you feel down, the whole world seems to be against you; but when you’re happy, it feels like you can conquer the world? The truth is, the world around you hasn’t changed drastically during those times, but you have. In short, how you think determines how you feel.
The power of your mind is at the essence of the Law of Attraction, which states, “What we think about, we bring about.” So if there is something you want in your life, you can attract it to you by visualising your desired results, using affirmations, expecting good things to happen, being appreciative, and taking inspired action.
To put it simply, if you make it a habit to think positive, positive things will come your way. Is it really that simple? How does it work?
Yes, positive thinking works, but you must also combine it with actions, because thoughts alone cannot move mountains. But firstly, realise that your thoughts are very powerful. They can give rise to feelings, and from those feelings come words and actions. Simply put, your thoughts, feelings and actions are all interconnected. Together, they create your life. So if your thoughts are negative, everything else will be too.
However, if you’re not used to positive thinking, it may not come easily at first. But it is possible to train your mind to think about good things that will help you to feel empowered, confident and capable.
There are six steps to becoming a positive thinker:

  1.  Know your goals and deepest desires
  2. Cultivate an attitude of gratitude and remind yourself of the things you are thankful for when you feel sad or angry
  3. Watch your self-talk and stop using negative words and expressions to describe things or ourselves
  4. Focus on the good in every situation
  5. Picture your dreams and make a picture board with images and words that inspire you
  6. And last, but most importantly, take action!

When you know what you want in life, talk and think to yourself in empowering ways, focus on the good and are able to visualise your dreams, you’re ready to take positive action. Though it may sound daunting at first, you can take small steps by making a commitment to take one action each day that will get you closer to your goals.
If you want to take action and start giving off positive vibes, you must first understand what we call the ‘words/result relationship.’ It is all about the words that we use, which give us thoughts, which in return has feelings attached to them.
Each word we use gives out either positive of negative vibes. Whatever words we use and thoughts they generate, the Law of Attraction matches them and keeps giving us the same results. So the only way to change our result from bad to good is by changing our vibes. That happens when we reset ourselves by asking the crucial question, “So, what do I want?” This gives us the path towards what we want and should act upon.
The secret to using the Law of Attraction in an effective way is to do the work consistently and to work with a coach. At the Law of Attraction Centre, Malaysia, our coaches teach, guide and equip you to learn, do and teach the message of the Law of Attraction. It is in the consistent practise of simple formulas, techniques and tools (with guidance) that you can generate the best results.
Last, but not least, remember that if your world cannot change, you can. You have to mental power to remove negative obstacles in your mind that stand in the way of your goals. So rather than think, “I can’t do this!” train your mind to think, “Here is my moment to shine!”